a Satisfying and Happy Marriage
Avoid Divorce and Discontent
in your Marriage by Following these 7 essential steps to
It is easy for a marriage
to fall into a lifeless routine over time, but often when you
put a little effort into preserving your relationship, you will
reap great results. Here are seven simple ways to help your
1. Listen. It may be cliche, but good communication goes a long
way in preserving a marriage. Often, a person is willing to talk
to their mate, but it is less willing to listen. Listening to
your partner without being quick to criticize them will make
them feel appreciated and respected. Listening builds trust in a
relationship. Don’t expect your spouse to share the depths of
their heart with you if you haven’t proved to be a good
2. Laugh. Being able to laugh together creates a special bond in
a couple. Laughter is known to be a stress-reliever and a key to
happy living. Laugh at your mistakes and watch movies that make
you laugh. However, be sure to never use humor in a way that is
insulting or disrespectful to your partner.
3. Value your spouse. Although you may remember to say “please”
and “thank you” to strangers on the street, you may forget to
say these things to your spouse. You can show your appreciation
to your spouse by simply saying thanks when they take out the
garbage or tell them that the dinner they made was delicious.
This way they know that you aren’t taking them for granted.
4. “I’m sorry.” These words can go a long way. Often,
apologizing shows your spouse that you understand their feelings
and respect their opinion. Apologizing is difficult for some
people to say, but learning to say “I’m sorry” can greatly
improve a marriage by eliminating long-winded arguments and
forming a pathway to making up after a fight.
5. Always end on a good note. Even if someone is upset, don’t
leave without at least saying a quick good-bye to your spouse or
giving them a kiss on the cheek. This shows that even though you
might be angry at the moment, you still love them. It’s a
sobering thought, but if it was the last thing you would say to
your spouse, what would you want it to be?
6. Forgive and forget. Forgiveness can be the greatest gift you
can give to your mate. Although you may not completely forget
what they have done, don’t bring up past faults in future
arguments. This can cause great hurt in your marriage. You
should always agree to move forward with your marriage, and not
dwell on the past.
7. Commit. Committing to your spouse is more than a vow you take
once. Commitment is a daily decision you make to be there for
your mate and make them a high priority in your life. Don’t
threaten your partner with divorce during every argument. You
and your spouse should make an agreement about handling
conflicts that works for both of you. This means “fighting
fair”: don’t insult each other or intentionally try to hurt your
partner during an argument. Instead, discuss only the matter at
hand and try to resolve it as calmly as possible.